After deciding the “basic parenting time schedule”, parents should then decide how they want to handle holidays. Holidays include the following:
School holidays/ National holidays (e.g., Columbus Day, Memorial Day)
Religious holidays (e.g., Easter)
Other holidays (e.g., Halloween)
Birthdays (parents and children)
Father’s Day and Mother’s Day
Parents should make a list of all applicable holidays in which the parents want to celebrate with the child (or have additional parenting time if the child is out of school) and decide what they would like to do for each holiday. For example, with some holidays, the parents may elect to alternate years while with other holidays, perhaps only one parent will have parenting time (e.g., one parent is Christian and the other parent is Jewish and each observes different religious holidays).
An example holiday schedule may look like this:
|Holiday||Odd-Numbered Years||Even-Numbered Years|
|Halloween||Father from 5pm to 9pm||Mother from 5pm to 9pm|
|Mother from 6pm to 8pm (if school night), otherwise, all day/night||Mother from 6pm to 8pm (if school night), otherwise, all day/night|
|New Year’s Eve||Mother||Father|
|New Year’s Day||Mother||Father|
|Martin Luther King (MLK) Day||Father||Mother|
|Father’s Birthday (Feb. 10th)||Father from 6pm to 8pm (if school night), otherwise, all day/night||Father from 6pm to 8pm (if school night), otherwise, all day/night|
|Fourth of July||Mother||Father|
The parents may select to also alternate time with the child(ren) on birthdays so have a schedule when both parents can celebrate with the child(ren) on or around his/her birthday.
 This example is with a Mother and a Father. The authors recognize that there may be two mothers or two fathers in some families.
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