As a family law attorney practicing in Illinois, Greater New York City and Texas, I work with individuals and families navigating some of life’s most emotionally and logistically challenging transitions. Whether you’re going through an uncontested divorce, pursuing mediation or collaborative divorce, or separating as a farming couple with complex property needs, the road ahead can feel uncertain.
Books can be powerful companions during this time—offering insight, comfort, and clarity when you need it most. Here are ten thoughtfully selected books that I often recommend to clients who want to approach divorce with grace, integrity, and hope for a better future.
1. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life
by Abigail Trafford
This classic is a must-read for anyone grappling with the emotional chaos of divorce. It normalizes the ups and downs and helps readers see that healing is possible, even in the most difficult moments.
2. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends
by Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti
A step-by-step guide to healing after a breakup. This book offers a structured recovery model ideal for clients who are doers—especially those looking to make sense of the emotional aftermath and rebuild a new life with confidence.
3. Mom’s House, Dad’s House
by Isolina Ricci
An essential resource for parents who want to establish a successful co-parenting relationship. It’s a respectful and practical guide that works for both traditional families and unique circumstances, such as farm families with shared land and seasonal parenting challenges.
4. Two Homes, One Childhood
by Robert E. Emery, Ph.D.
Grounded in child psychology and family systems theory, this book emphasizes long-term co-parenting success and emotional security for children. A strong recommendation for couples committed to protecting their child’s well-being.
5. Take God’s Hand: Hope and Help for Rebuilding Your Family After Divorce
by Aimee Claire Cooks
For those who draw strength from faith, this Christian-centered book offers spiritual encouragement and reflective exercises that help you rebuild emotionally and spiritually after divorce.
6. The Truth About Children and Divorce
by Robert E. Emery, Ph.D.
Backed by research, this book delivers wisdom on how children perceive divorce and how parents can minimize trauma and foster resilience.
7. Conscious Uncoupling
by Katherine Woodward Thomas
A compassionate and emotionally intelligent approach to separation that resonates with clients drawn to collaborative divorce and mediation. It reframes divorce as a journey of personal growth rather than destruction.
8. The Smart Divorce
by Deborah Moskovitch
Think of this one as your divorce toolkit. Covering legal, financial, and emotional topics, it’s ideal for clients looking for practical advice on how to navigate every stage of divorce smartly and proactively.
9. Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
by Bill Eddy & Randi Kreger
For clients dealing with high-conflict personalities, this book provides essential strategies to protect themselves legally and emotionally. It can be particularly helpful in rural or isolated communities where support may be harder to find.
10. Divorce & Money
by Violet Woodhouse & Dale Fetherling
Finances are a major concern in divorce, especially in farm families or couples with significant marital property. This book helps clients understand how to protect their assets, plan for the future, and make informed decisions—especially important when navigating state-specific laws across multiple jurisdictions like Illinois, New York, or Texas.
Final Thoughts
Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. With the right support and resources—including thoughtful reading—you can navigate the process with clarity, compassion, and confidence. As an attorney focused on amicable resolutions, farm divorces, and collaborative methods, I believe that preparation, education, and emotional wellness are key to a successful transition.
If you’re considering divorce or have questions about mediation, property division, or co-parenting, I’m here to help. Together, we can create a path forward that respects your values and protects what matters most. Please contact us as assistant@rinckerlaw.com or (217) 531-2179.